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BabySomeone handed me their baby this morning in the cathedral while I gathered the children for Sunday School. The baby was a soft, round, small, dear thing with dark eyes that looked and me and considered what might happen next. To be certain, I did not know either. So I returned her gaze with similar curiosity, marking time and wondering how long the little one would take to conclude that her smallness was safe with me.

Around me, there was already a crowd of children. It was a summer Sunday and this position being brand new, I was in the process of deciding upon whether or not we should have a nursery. As I propped the baby’s roundness on my hip, I made my way up the centre aisle to find that there was yet another baby standing on a wooden pew, searching the faces behind him with dour marvel.

So I spoke to that tiny one’s grand mum and expressed my cheer at the sudden baby invasion. But then, I was flabbergasted under the morning light spilling through the stain-glassed windows. With a group of lively children, with their needs and questions, with their velocity – could I teach them all while I held a baby in my arms?

The answer came simply as I guided the older children back down the isleI would teach by relationship. If I had any hope of being effective this morning it was because I had made a connection with the most susceptible in my chargethe baby. If I all was right with the baby, then most would be right with the class. If things were not right with the baby then the babyin all her lovelinesswould squiggle and squirm and deconstruct my biblical deconstruction.

So I would spend the morning allowing the baby to undo my teaching. Which was not necessarily a bad thing. Would I sit to read the gospel to the children? No, I could not. The baby did not like that. She began to squint her lovely dark eyes and let out an unremitting wail. So I stood to read the Gospel. Her smallness guided me to be a postured authority on the textstanding tall, albeit with her on my bent hip. Would I be able to read the text while swaying gently to calm the baby? No, I would make mistakes. I would misread words. I would go back, correct myselfthe Gospel would still be read. It would come from the jumbled source that I was; standing tall, but more humbled.

Suddenly, my sister arrived, late but replete with her own children and with a pair of willing arms. I could pass the baby to her. The child cried only at first but was calmedperhaps with the notion that she had transformed the text. Just as the infant Christ at the hour of His birth changed the meaning of the testament into what the world needed to hear; transformation is always possible.

Thank you, little babe.

Kate Newman

About Kate Newman

Kate Newman has been teaching arts and faith to children in the secular school system and in churches for 20 years. Kate has completed a Masters of Theological Studies and has a Masters in Education. She is the principal developer for the Compendium of the Church Mice. She currently works at Christ Church Cathedral, Victoria the same church where she was baptized in Children's Minstry. She is also a mother. She enjoys walks in the woods with her and a good nap. Whew.
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6 Responses to Teaching by relationship

  1. More than once I celebrated Eucharist with my infant daughter on my hip. People in the congregation were delighted (or if they weren’t, they kept quiet about it, lol!). One said to me that she had a whole new sense of God as our Mother. Teaching by relationship indeed!

  2. Like Heather, your experience brings my own memories — like the time my toddler ran to me mid-way through the proclamation of the Gospel. I really had no other option but to pick him up and continue: “this is my son, with whom I am well pleased.” Kind of put the whole experience in perspective.

  3. yes, I regularly preach and preside with a child in arms or wandering around me. I think it’s important.

  4. What better way to teach the Gospel than holding GOD’s greatest miracle in your arms.

  5. I’ve preached with a toddler on my hip, had four-year-olds sit/kneel with me at the prayer desk and proclaimed the gospel crouched down reading at the height of the children or child who’s decided that it was a good time to hang out. The Body of Christ.

  6. I Agree with Donna Donaldson Comment what better way then holding one of Gods most Greatest Gifts

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